Coping with major life events during COVID 19 pandemic

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Coping with major life events during COVID 19 pandemic

Coping with major life events during COVID 19 pandemic

Coping with major life events during COVID 19 pandemic

The coronavirus pandemic forced us to change our lifestyle. It not only compromised our safety but the quality of life also go affected.  Simple but pleasurable activities like - exercise, grocery shopping, socializing, even going for a walk seemed like a dream. Now that we’re a few months in, most of us have found a way to manage our everyday life in this “new normal.”

During this difficult time not only, the daily routine has got changed but major events keep happening they do not care about COVID or not.

People have to move house, some had to leave the city, some lost their job. There are also other major losses that will happen through this time: the death of a loved one, divorce. A major illness (COVID or otherwise).

Whether or not we welcome the transition, it’s stressful. Selling a home, for example, was already a bit of a nightmare, and now you have to manage every step of it in the context of social distancing and radical uncertainty. And you probably don’t have all the supports you normally would depend on, like being able to spend time with friends and with family we don’t live with.

It can feel like there’s no solid ground to stand on—no home base to operate from. How are you supposed to navigate a seismic shift in your life, when the world already feels so off-kilter? We need to find a center—a constant—something that helps us stay grounded when everything else is in flux.

There are pillars to kneel on -

Faith

For some of us, stability comes from our religious or spiritual commitments. Maybe you find comfort in rituals: lighting the diya in temple, ringing the bell, sitting in stillness. These practices can connect us not only to the rest of our lives, but to countless others who have practiced them over hundreds or thousands of years.

Friends & Family

Even as toddlers, we orient ourselves through our closest relationships. Studies show that young kids with a secure connection to their caregivers are more willing to venture out and try new things. The same is true for adults. That’s why it’s more important than ever to stay in close contact with our loved ones during COVID, and even more so during a major transition. Loving relationships are crucial to our well-being in many ways: getting a different perspective; remembering we matter; knowing we’re loved.

Music

Music can touch us on a deep level. Listening to your favorite number can soothe your nerves, sometimes you may get a   profound sense that things were going to be all right in this new place.

Connecting to your own inner self

We don’t actually need anything outside of ourselves to find stability. Each of us has an inner core—a secret place within us that is who we’ve always been. Through all the changes and stages of our life, through the joys and traumas, pleasure, and pain, it’s been there. Maybe you think of it as your soul, your spirit, or your heart. Whatever you call it, it’s there waiting for you. When life is stormy, we can drop into that place of stillness. It’s like diving beneath the waves and descending to a depth where all is calm. We can find this place in meditation, or through prayer. We might find it as we lie in bed and let everything, we don’t need to melt away. Sometimes it finds us, in surprising moments of tranquility. It’s actually here, right now. As present as ever. Take a gentle breath in through the nose. Exhale slowly. Arrive fully in this moment. This inner knowing is always with you. Use it.

Dr. Rakesh Rai. MS, FRCS, CCT, MD, ASTS fellow